In the wake of the Kobe Bryant incident earlier this week where the basketball player yelled a gay slur at an NBA referee, I wrote a brief post here on the blog that said something along the lines of
“Kobe, I’m not directing any of these comments toward you; I really wasn’t offended. But this is how you could have done it. In retrospect, I think you’ll agree that your insult was a bit weak.”I then included a 10-minute clip from YouTube of a 100 Great Movie Insults (not one of these including any type of gay slur). I put in a disclaimer above the video, because you can imagine that the language was a bit rough.
I published the post.
I tweeted the link to the post on Twitter as I always do.
Then I stopped…
I deleted the tweet.
I deleted the post.
The video that I had included in the post did not fit the style of my site. I’m not a prude, but some of the language made even me cringe a bit. But the real reason that I deleted the post was that I had lied: I was offended by
’s action. Kobe
In the heat of the moment, Kobe Bryant had used the worst word in his measure to sling at the ref. This tells me a lot about
and about society in general. Not to whine or take a victim stance, but just when I think that we gays and lesbians are making strides in equality … Kobe
Which is it,
? “I’m sorry” or “It was no big deal”? Kobe
I know that I refer to myself as “The Queer” on this site. After having that word thrown at me so much in my youth, I decided to grab it and make it mine. I would guess that this self-reference can make some people uncomfortable. I know that I intend no malice toward myself or any lesbian or gay man. What's more, I would never call a straight friend “breeder,” refer to a child as a “rugrat” or ridicule a mom for driving a “sproggenwagon.” At least not without love in my voice.