File this under: “One of the Laziest Posts Ever Written” or “Inciting a Family Feud.”
This past Friday morning before the decision on the New York gay marriage issue, I posted on my regular “non-queer” Facebook page:
Listening to George Michael on way to work for all my gay/lesbian brothers & sisters working for marriage equality in NY “Gotta have faith”
To that post, I received a few supporting comments from friends, far and near. And then I got (I won’t correct his spelling, punctuation or grammar):
This is not natural and against the one and true God that we are made in His image and one day everyone will stand in front of Him and give account to a Holy God
This from a heterosexual cousin, who is now a preacher in a very rural part of northwest Louisiana. He and I were quite close back when we were kids. Even though he was about four years older than I, he used to let me hang out with him and would take me with him when he “cruised the Strip.”
I have not seen him in over ten years.
This post from him provoked many of my friends, and the three comments multiplied to 12.
I removed him from my Facebook friends.
Then I sent him a message:
You and I have not spoken in years, so I do not understand why you posted on my wall with your opinion on gay marriage. My beliefs and yours are vastly different on this matter.I left the Baptist church long ago, because I was repeatedly told that I was going to Hell. However, I was also told by my immediate family that there was no way that I was going to Hell. I am not sure either way, nor is it important to me.You and I used to be close. I miss those days. But I have removed you from my friends list on Facebook. You and I are kin, but I believe that we are no longer friends.
He replied with:
I'm sorry that you feel that way but if i didnt love you i would kept silent and you chose not to keep me as a friend thats fine but do something read Romans 1 I just give the truth of Gods Holy word what you do with it is your choice.
I've read Romans before. But find me anywhere in the Bible where Jesus talked about homosexuality. What you are quoting is the words of Paul, not Jesus. Jesus did not speak through Paul, as much as Paul wanted that. One of my favorite songs is "Fly from Heaven" by Toad the Wet Sprocket. The song wonderfully sums up Paul. (excuse me while I insert a video for you that I did not include for his viewing pleasure).
Regardless, as I said, I have left the church. I still believe in Jesus, but not the way that conservative Christians do. Using the word of God to judge others is not in the spirit of Christ.The only reason that I did not keep you as a friend on Facebook was that I did not appreciate your writing your beliefs on my wall, when they go completely against my own beliefs. I would never do the same thing to you.
I may have said that I believe that we are no longer friends, but I will always remember you in a good light. When we were young, you were always kind to me. I really do appreciate that, [insert name here]
He came back with:
I have my dougts if you want except Pauls word as he was chose by God then you have turn your back on all because its all Inspired word of God we cant pick and choose what we want to and ingnore the rest. you know i can not stand by and see you split hell wide open and not say anything but you choose the path that your on and all i can do is Pray for your salvation And that The True Jesus will come back into your life and When Jesus talk about Marrage it was between a man and a woman because thats His standards not mine or even yours.
I summed up with:
ok [insert name here]
... I don't tell you how to live.
You are not remotely interested in my happiness. So you can say that you "love" me, but I have my doubts about that.
I think we are through on this subject. We'll never agree.
My best to you in the future. Hopefully one day we can see one another and laugh about this whole exchange. Probably not, according to you I'm Hell-bound. I'll not see you at all.
Amazingly it ended there. To be honest, it hurt. I thought that I could make him understand. Maybe were we face-to-face, I could have. But to not fool myself, it would have been a lost cause. (Besides, the Toad the Wet Sprocket was completely lost on him). So he didn't understand me; I don't think that I did a good job of understanding him either.
After my final transmission, I expected him to get the last word. I’ll keep you posted.